Marriage weaknesses in today's islamic society

Marriage

                                                                         

                               

                              A societal Weaknesses in Marriage 

  As a human being  we are full of weaknesses and these weaknesses are making us human otherwise we would be angles.

But it doesn't mean that we overlook our flaws and become more weak morally. No!

Actually we have to learn from these weaknesses and go towards Right Path.

          " Oh Allah please Guide us "!

For strengthening ourselves, we need to look our weaknesses .And today we will discuss about weaknesses in our marriages. 

                       Wealth became our Idol 

                      Anger became our             Attitude 

                      Custom became our Responsibility 

                      Job became our Destiny 

                    Vagarence became our Entertainment 

 I think I have fully summarised the situation of our societies in these lines !

   I think it is wealth which has divided our society. While walking through the road of marriage, we first look whether a man has much wealth or not, whether he can beautify my daughter with adornments and jewelleries or not.If he has all these things then there is no breath taking minute tomorrow!  It might has gone.

 

  " To get married delusion 

   of   eyes is enough "

  Oh a big house, car ...

      "I want to marry with him!"

       Let me tell you one thing! Would you prefer to accept her proposal who has seen your beautiful house, car ...etc?

     If yes then let me prolong my tongue! 

     Do you think she will love you? 

   Stammering. .....ye. ..ye. ...yes !

     I  say                  No?

     You are saying wrong because she hasn't seen you. She has loved your beautiful house and not you otherwise she would not have made the selection of enriched person like you without looking first at the essential elements.

          Now both are under the same roof but without any taste of marriage! 

     Because both deluded, a man married with the shineness of her body and not with heart. A woman has married with the lasting adorn and not with his heart. 

           The delusion of eyes has ruined their lives

      They are not able to tolerate anyone's wickedness. 

                 "    Their hearts are divorced "

There marriage has became burden on them and now searching for escape. 

             Beauty of such women 

 Unknown with their religion, Almighty, purpose of life make them wiseless in every aspect. Their deluded love ruin their life. Their tired husband doesn't get the fragrance of their love.Rather than smiling ,angrily speak with one another. They are not serving properly one another. A woman if does any work then just for showing his husband “see how much work I do” . While working thinking this is not my home. Loving the Brother-in-law for the sake they earn money. If in trouble (Brother-in-law) ,saying oh son (of Brother-in-law) please take care of your Father (because there will be the lost of money otherwise no scorn on passing away Brother-in-law).

Being miser in the works of her home , reluctant in performing her duties. Seeing with black eyes toward sons of Brother-in-law. Being respected by sons, still envying them with false belief and humiliation. Hanging out vagrantly perfumed and uncovered with false intentions. Hating their husbands , accustomed with their backbiting and thinking subordinately...etc.

               Beauty of such husbands

 Coming late to their homes, drug habitual and do other vagrant activities. Don't care about their families , what they (spouses) need and what they are doing. Involved in self-esteem, showing stubbornness toward every good invitation and throwing their families and themselves in imbalance.

             Their children

  After having such situation of morality,one can easily predict their attitude toward their children. How unaffectionate parents can tolerate their weeping? How do they bring love and joy to their children when themselves in trouble. Keeping them free like a vagrant, not advicing right things (because they are not knowing what right is).And hence ruining their life.

 

    Oh Allah make us kind toward our families...Ameen.  

       Discourse;

       We should be thankful to our Almighty Allah who is sustainer of the whole world.

         Almighty Allah is knowing that a human being would love much more and hence said

     

           

From these verses a man comes to know how difficult the concern of money is !

This money makes us blind and forget us hereafter.

     We need to be very curious about the matter.

      Do you know why Pharoah denied?

  He denied because of two things

1. Musa and Harun (a.s) as humans.

2. Their land undr our control (means Pharoah thought that they are subordinate as our servents).

   This blind belief led Pharoah to Hell fire.

  

"Oh Allah prevent us from blind belief".

In Sura Qalm verse 10-14 Allah says And don't be scared by the wealthy ones.

     If we think for some minutes we will come to say that

    " There can never be achieved the balance of wealth"

    By keeping wealth to the top most ,we for what humanity means and we started burning ourselves in the love of this Dun'ya which is soon lasting .

      Oh Allah! May we not be among disbelievers!

One is self-suppression and second is poor suppression. We are deepening poor under the ground. We are suggesting our little ones that they have to achieve world more rather than drawing attention to his morals(اخلاق). 

  By this way our girls fall in bad activities hanging out vagarantly with polished many creams and fragrance.

     Nudism the darkest cloud

They don't Value themselves but remain in delusion.

      Even after their marriage they are not knowing how to tackle different situations. Not knowing how to talk in gathering about her husband. They are incapable of serving each other. Not knowing how to stabilize their own home and how they can stabilize others? (Relatives, neighbours etc). This all makes our life tasteless without any target of life.

You can not walk unless you know your Destination !  

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